|Polyamory and the different variants of love
||[Jan. 3rd, 2009|01:28 am]
'Love' encompasses a wide range of emotions. Any variant of love is characterized by a feeling of 'softness'. There are 2 component emotions, which can act either alone or in combination, to produce love. Those component emotions are oneness and humility.|
In a love relationship, the emotion of oneness, if it is present, causes the behaviors of telling eachother everything about oneself and one's recent events, always telling the truth, not keeping secrets, and doing everything together or otherwise always keeping in contact. The emotion of oneness can also be detected in the tone of voice when in the company of eachother.
In a love relationship, the emotion of humility, if it is present, causes a gentle weakness in one's regard to eachother, and this can be expressed both in one's demeanor toward eachother and in one's manner of affection. One behavior that humility is conducive to is bowing, though this of course is not a behavior that is associated with love relationships, though there is the antiquated behavior of bowing while kissing a woman on the back of the hand.
Exclusive monoamory is based upon egotistical dominant-territorialism, which is the opposite of humility. Therefore, people whose love is of the exclusive monoamorous sort can not incorporate humility into their love, but only oneness. Non-exclusive people, on the other hand, are not bound by this restriction. Not only can non-exclusive people use humility as a component of their love, but they can also use love that is purely humility-derived, such that it does not incorporate oneness at all.